• Imani White

"DLS"...10 Steps to Confidence

Proverbs 31:25

"She clothes herself with strength and dignity , and she laughs without fear of the future."

Dear Little Sister,

We're going to do things a little differently today ;) We are going to be introduced to the idea of Confidence 101! And here! I have created a whole arsenal of weapons for you to use to help you learn! I have fun photos, 10 tips, AND an inspirational quote at the bottom! (lol it's ok you can go ahead and scroll down. Use this post as you wish.) I am so excited to see who this might help! If you feel pretty powerful at the end-send me a picture! I would LOVE to see your smiling face! Let's lift each other up one step at a time. I am so excited for you! Go you! lol

1) Be Grateful

*Don't miss this step!*

Take a moment to be grateful for the little things. Honestly break things down to the bare basics-the bare "minimums." Think: "I am so happy that I woke up. I have a core that can pull myself up out of my own bed, I can walk on my own legs, and I have a roof over my head." It feels weeeeird BUT it puts things in perspective! Starting the day like that will show you how many things you do have and you will be overwhelmed with how good your life really is. Because "A thankful heart is a happy heart."

2)Make a Success List

Make a list of your top 3 favorite people in the world. Why do you look up to them? How do they inspire you? Why are they different from everyone else, and how do they use that to their

advantage? (Example) My top 3 are Lindsey Stirling, Jeanie Mai and Ingrid Nilsen. (followed by Lilly Singh, Tamera Mowry and Esther to name a few)lol. All of these women were the first to do things differently in their worlds and were proud of who they were and what gifts they have to give. Through this-they inspire others to do so too.

3)Spend Quality time...with you

You'll never know what makes you happy- if you never ask yourself. So just ask yourself what you like and spend some time learning about that! Enjoyyy this time, it's just for you!

4)Spend Quality time...with your family

I am lucky enough to say that my biological family is my TRUE family. But I do know sometimes that doesn't happen

for everyone. So spend time with YOUR true family. You know who I'm talking about ;) They'll know just what to say.

5)Help Someone Else

Show someone else that they matter! People might not even know that you think about them. I don't think there is a right or wrong way how to do this, just as long as it's genuine.

It's crazy, when we are in the deepest dumps- sometimes making someone else smile- pulls out a smile from us too. Go figure lol.

6)Change Your Look

Take that outfit idea that you

think you can't pull off-and wear it. Do this AT LEAST ONCE a month. Try a new hairstyle, try a new makeup look and see how it turns out! Even if you don't like it-you tried it! But chances are-you're going to LOVE it!

7) Walk Taller

Try to strut! (lol- it works.) Wanna know my favorite trick?A key is always having a confident song playing through

your head! Before you leave your room or car, blast some confident music and watch how you walk a little taller. Then you can keep your head above the crappy circumstances around you.

8)Smile More!

Find one good thing about the day- and focus on that. Even if

it starts uncomfortable-it will lead to something genuine!

9)Change your scene

Go outside!! Find something fun, new, and active to try! Seize the day! haha. A water feature, the woods, the sand-Even just driving on the highway with the windows down will do wonders for your happiness!


Track your progress! Try writing for a week. It's amazing, you may not think you are making progress, but just having that option to look back at your old self and see how far you've come will really make you proud in where you are and give you energy to focus on where you are going.

Last Thoughts...

One of the keys to confidence is accepting who you are and where you are. You will learn these things in your own time, so be kind to yourself. Even if you "mess up." You are worthy to be loved through ALL of this journey, however long it takes you.


Your biggest fan,

Your Big Sister

Quote of the Week:

"Our Deepest Fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you...And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."-Marianna Williamson