• Imani White

Dear Little Sister...Where do I fit in?

Dear Little Sister,

Tell me this is on your mind as much as it's on mine! Yep. That's right, I've had a huge problem with fitting in. It may not look like it, but I constantly struggle with this.  It's so hard to fit in, especially when you are in school. 

I can remember not quite being apart of one specific group at school. I remember walking the halls looking for someone who looked like me. But for a long time, I couldn't find anywhere where I belonged. I was always too emotional, too loud, or too awkward.

Let me tell you something though. The enemy is always going to feed you this lie over and over again. He is going to try to tell you that "You are alone." And this can keep you from wanting to make friends! So  Never.Ever. Believe it! You and I are going to fight this together. So here are 4 lies that you'll hear in your life. 

1. You're "Too Much" for people 

If you laugh loud-laugh louder! If you smile "too much", smile brighter! If someone says you're "too much", it means they weren't made to love you. It doesn't mean that they are bad. It doesn't mean You are bad. It just means you weren't made to be friends. You are exactly who you are supposed to be right.now. Don't let anyone tell you differently! 

2.You aren't  Enough 

Hahahahahahhahahhaha oh my gosh this one is so ridiculous sometimes. I won't lie, I hear this lie often in my head. "If you were prettier, smarter, thinner, more athletic, had more of a backbone, then-" No. Don't finish that sentence. Don't finish that thought. 

You were made for something very special, and very specific. Once you find that place-you'll realize that you are exactly what is needed. 

3. You'll always be alone

This is all temporary. All of it. To quote my favorite show ever, "You can do anything if you just take it 10 seconds at a time." So when you feel like this, take a deep breath and count to 10. Sometimes I count 10 people that I love, or 10 things that I'm looking forward to. Point is, you count to 10 and you'll realize that pain will go away, and you'll see it was all a lie. 

Tip: I set my background photo on my phone to a person that inspires me. That way when I turn on my phone I'm reminded of how important they are to me, and how someone must love me in the way that I love them.

Don't forget this:

"You are smarter than you think. You are more talented than you know. And you are more loved than you can ever imagine." 

4.You're a Burden 

I would be lying if I said this wasn't the lie that I hear most often. It's that feeling you can get when all of those previous lies add up to one huge dark cloud. 

You know what removed that cloud? Meeting you guys.

Becoming a small group leader showed me what my purpose was. I didn't fit in before, because I fit perfectly with middle school girls. And sure enough, all those negative terms turned into strengths. Being emotional turned into compassionate. Being loud turned into funny. And being awkward turned into awesome! (Okay maybe still awkward but hey!!) 

You'll find your place too, I promise.

If not, you have a home here, with people who love you.

Even if it's just me.


Your Big Sister 

Psalm 139:17-18

"How precious are your thoughts about me O God. They can't be numbered! I can't even count them, they are like grains of sand. And when I wake up, you are still with me!"