• Imani White

Dear Little Sister...Comparison is the Thief of Joy

Dear Little Sister,

Hi Sweetheart! I have a question for you. Is being yourself really the most important thing? It sounds like such a selfish idea

, doesn't it? So do why is it so important to focus on this "self-love" movement? I'll tell you why-because your.life.matters. 

If I'm honest, this is something that I have had to re-learn all over again over the course of this past month.  It can be so hard to remember the value that you bring to the world, ESPECIALLY when things like instagram (and other social media) distract us! Am I right? Comparing ourselves can happen so so fast, we don't even realize the effects until it's too late! We wish we looked different, had a different life plan, had a different life, and we end up missing the blessings in our own lives! I hope you know how important you are hun, and if not-here are somethings that can help remind you!! 

1)Free Yourself

Do you ever feel this huge pressure to be doing things differently? Maybe it's not coming from the outside... maybe it starts inside? We can actually hold ourselves prisoner with thoughts like "I'll never be this...", "I'll never have this...", "Things will always be this way."

Hun, You don't have to feel this way. You don't have to believe this. What if one day you apologized to yourself for putting the pressure of the world on your own shoulders? I think if we start by thanking ourselves for achieving what we have so far, we'll find ourselves turning into our best supporter, rather than our biggest offender. Be thankful for who you are. All of who you are.

2)Admit what your Heart reeeally wants

I really believe that "meeting yourself" is the most beautiful thing you could ever do. What is it you like to do? What brings your heart the most joy? 

Now, is that what you are doing?Are you working towards achieving that dream, that goal, that idea? If you have a desire to do something, that desire was put there for a reason! Follow that. We each have our own passion, and when we find it and follow it, it can lead us to our purpose. There is nothing wrong with following your passion. Allow yourself to try-you just may find what you've been looking for. 

3)You and Her

(I'd like to take the time to thank my best friend, Sam, for this one lol)

So the other day I found myself completely gluuueeedd to instagram. I found myself on the phone with my friend afterwards just ripping myself apart because I saw this girl,who in my eyes, was absolutely perfect. She was gorgeous, awesome style, best instagram feed (lol), perfect relationships, jobs, just on and on and on. And I told her-"I think I'm jealous because she has everything I wish I had."

Then she dropped the mic.(as besties always do)

She said, "Imani, lol. Don't you realize-you already have all of those qualities? You ARE gorgeous, you HAVE an amazing style, you do amazing makeup and you're a strong woman of God who loves Him so much. You are already perfect."

And I wish I could give that same speech to every.single.one. of you! When you are trying to look into other cars, you risk crashing your own; and ultimately, not reaching your own destination. Focus on the road that's in front of you.

4)Let Go, and let God. 

We will always wish for something more, or something less. I've been listening to a song over and over again the past few weeks and there is a beautiful line that says, "Sometimes I've got to stop, remember that you're God, and I am not." We are not the ones who have to hold our lives together-God already has everything together. He has a plan that can never be broken or twisted. And every day we get a chance to be apart of that plan. He's got this, which means He's got you. And if He's got you-then you've got this. 

Your life- can save someone else's. You can save someone from low self-esteem, hopelessness, and a lack of motivation-just by being you! You have this INSANE power to change the lives around you, by just.being.you. And as a reminder,you are amazing just as you are. I love you, and I'm proud of you. 


Your Big Sister

Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, Plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope and a future."